冤家宜解不宜结
yuān jiā yí jiě bù yí jié
In real, traceable use. Part of the curated seed collection; community review is coming.
Traditional: 冤家宜解不宜結
A feud should be ended, not deepened: it is wiser to make peace with an enemy than to go on fighting. Said to urge people to let go of a grudge.
Thù oán nên cởi bỏ chứ không nên buộc thêm: có hiềm khích thì nên giảng hoà hơn là tiếp tục đối đầu. Dùng để khuyên người ta bỏ qua mối hận cũ.
Register: neutral
Examples
Editorial example (illustrative, not a corpus attestation) — awaiting a native-speaker check
Sources & notes
Hán-Việt bridge batch 062 (2026-11-13). Headword, Traditional form and pinyin checked against CC-CEDICT (CC BY-SA 4.0) source ↗ · Hán-Việt reading: Unihan kVietnamese source ↗ · Vietnamese cognate: Idiomer entry “oan gia nghi giải bất nghi kết” (oan-gia-nghi-giai-bat-nghi-ket). Definition, literal gloss and example sentence are original; the example has not had a native-speaker check yet.
Equivalents & related
Common questions
What does “冤家宜解不宜结” mean?
A feud should be ended, not deepened: it is wiser to make peace with an enemy than to go on fighting. Said to urge people to let go of a grudge. Literally: enmity should be untied, not tied
Is “冤家宜解不宜结” formal or informal?
冤家宜解不宜结 is generally neutral.