pick-me

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Meaning · English

Someone who seeks validation by trying to stand out, often putting down others in their gender or group to gain favor or attention. This is most commonly done by degrading oneself.

Register: informalEra: 2020s

Where it’s used: Used American English • Gen Z / internet register
Sources & notes

Adapted from Wikipedia “Glossary of 2020s slang” (CC BY-SA 4.0, retrieved 2026-07-30). US Gen Z / internet usage.

Common questions

What does “pick-me” mean?

Someone who seeks validation by trying to stand out, often putting down others in their gender or group to gain favor or attention. This is most commonly done by degrading oneself.

Is “pick-me” formal or informal?

pick-me is generally informal.