giận thì đánh quạnh thì thương
In real, traceable use. Part of the curated seed collection; community review is coming.
Meaning · English
Strike in anger, cherish in loneliness — the family bond swings but never severs.
Literally: angry, they beat; lonesome, they love
Sources & notes
Discovered via Tục ngữ, cổ ngữ, gia ngôn (Huỳnh Tịnh Của, 1897; public domain, via vi.wikisource); retrieved 2026-08-01. Source: source ↗ Attested in Tục ngữ, cổ ngữ, gia ngôn (Huỳnh Tịnh Của, 1897). Definition is an original editorial synthesis, not copied from the source.
Common questions
What does “giận thì đánh quạnh thì thương” mean?
Strike in anger, cherish in loneliness — the family bond swings but never severs. Literally: angry, they beat; lonesome, they love
Is “giận thì đánh quạnh thì thương” formal or informal?
No register label has been reviewed yet — treat it as neutral and check the usage notes above.