can't live with them, can't live without them

In real, traceable use. Part of the curated seed collection; community review is coming.

Meaning · English

There is a hopeless, ongoing conflict between annoyance with someone or something and need for that same person or thing.

Nghĩa · Tiếng Việt

Không thể sống cùng họ, cũng không thể sống thiếu họ

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Where it’s used: Used American English

Examples

You've got to find the woman that works for you. Because, after all, we can't live with them, can't live without them.

Usage example from English Wiktionary (CC BY-SA 4.0, retrieved 2026-07-30)

Sources & notes

Adapted from English Wiktionary (CC BY-SA 4.0, retrieved 2026-07-30 via kaikki.org).

Common questions

What does “can't live with them, can't live without them” mean?

There is a hopeless, ongoing conflict between annoyance with someone or something and need for that same person or thing.

Is “can't live with them, can't live without them” formal or informal?

No register label has been reviewed yet — treat it as neutral and check the usage notes above.